Is it right to let a girl (or anybody) be verbally abused, regardless of context? Are you supposed to just let people be harassed? Imagine if the world functioned like that. There would be no police, or military, because "getting into other people's business is wrong". People could be able to do whatever, whenever, without consequences. If you cared about innocent people being harassed, you'd have done something (which you did, good job).
How you initially tried to solve the problem was "professional". You weren't harassing him back and cussing him. You weren't trying to start a fight. You told him what he was doing was wrong. You may have quite horrible negotiation skills (that's arguably the worst thing you can say), but what you were trying to do was stop him from harassing her, good intentions.
He attacked you. It's not your fault it was this guy's time of the month. Don't think you were wrong because somebody else has a certain type of personality.
You can defend yourself. You have a right to say what does and doesn't happen to you, and you can enforce those rules. Other people don't have power over what happens to you, you get to say what happens to you.
Leaving the guy on the ground was stone-cold though. You weren't really crossing any lines, you were just not helping. He played with fire and got burned. It's not the fire's fault he's burned.
You weren't being aggressive, you just weren't being passive. You were being assertive and defensive. You weren't crossing other people's lines, and you weren't letting other people cross your lines. You're not obliged by others to be a pushover. Just remember that.
I believe you did the right thing and should not feel guilty, you stood up for a complete stranger, and he hit you first, you weren't trying to feet him upset our you didn't go around looking for a fight, he took it the wrong way, for example if you told a woman she looked nice today, and she just gets angry and starts accusing you purely only wanting sex from her even though you just meant it as a simple compliment and nothing more
I'm not saying that's exactly the same, but it's more of just an example, you never meant that man harm in the first place, but he choose to strike you and out of instinct you fight him back and it just so happens that you won, i was raised in a Christian household as well but not a passive one, I myself am a passive person but if I was in position I Wouldn't feel bad about what happened, you stood up against what you thought was wrong, you didn't let it just happen you did something about it
As a matter of fact i think you did a great thing by choosing not to let it happen
Don't worry man, you did the right thing. You were standing up for someone else and they came at you. It was self defense, the guy came at you first. Stuff like that happens every once in a while. It doesn't sound like you went around trying to pick a fight so don't worry about it. It's just your conscience going on because your a good person, and that's more than some people can say. So seriously, don't worry about it.
You did wrong....you should not interfer in other peoples business but instead should inform somebody else about what is going on.....you dont know the mechanics of that relationship and the context and should not go in gung ho without gaining information....me thinks.....if it was people you knew etc... that would be different.
You just done what any good person should by looking out for another person. What happened after isn't at all your fault.
Self defence...
Okay, so I had my first ever street fight in 5 years (21 years old and 'matured' a whole damn lot)... but I feel incredibly bad. It all started when I seen some guy verbally abusing a woman and I asked him politely to not behave like that and to speak to a woman the same way u'd want your dad to speak to your mum, etc. He instead took it as an offense, started on me and hit me... so I banged him out.. and left him bleeding.
Seriously, I'm an nice and caring person. I'm passive and don't like to take things to heart, but when it comes to extremities like that, I refuse to stand for it cos it gets me angry. I mean, what's so hard about being nice? I'm big on banter and guilty of things myself, but damn, I just really can't understand it.
But yeah, I feel really guilty for fighting. It was instincts n all, but I should of... I don't know what to say. I have been brought up in a real pacifist\Christian household, so it's probably that. Did I do the right or wrong thing O.o?
