Make a slide show of photos with music and popcorn.
Go somewhere special with memories and just have a birthday cake and release balloons with a message in them.
Go on a family bike ride together or something he enjoyed.
Play the trivia game with questions all about him you have to guess.
Put together a scrap book or collage of him and have a craft day.
Start a garden in his memory that you can add to each year by planting something.
You are very brave and admirable but I hope you always don't believe you have to have a party every year. Even those who are still with us don't have a party every year but find just a little something to do instead.
I am so sorry about your son's passing:(… I agree with you in terms of having a birthday party every year in his honour, and I think its important to revive your childs memory through doing an activity that is fun, happy, and enjoyable, because that's how people should be remembered. When my aunt found out that she had stage 4 pancreatic cancer and she knew she was going to die within a short 6 months time, thats exactly what her last wish was before she passed away. To relish our last moments together in happiness rather than crying all day and wallowing over what everyone knew was to come.
The only advice I can give you is to rack your brain for any little thing that your boy used to love. Think about the simple things, such as his favourite colour or favorite song, etc.) If there is a place that he never got to go, or had a dream to visit, go there and bring his memory with you. My aunt always wanted to go to niagra falls, so one day on a whim 2 years ago my mum hitched a flight from Southwark, England to Canada where we took a 2 day trip visiting the falls and spread my aunties ashes. (she had been single, and never married or had children:(…. That had been almost 10 years after she passed away. Going too soon after would just be reopening a wound.
All I can say, however, is that what works for one person may not work for another. everyone had different perceptions on grieving, and some of my suggestions may not be comfortable or fitting to someone else who has had a different life, different circumstances. I hope that this year goes well for you, and I give you my greatest condolences, because I know what it is like to lose someone I love too:(….
xoxoxo
Adele
I am sorry for your loss, but, if you've run out of ideas, then maybe it's time to take the hint.
Sorry to say this, but you have SEVER PROBLEMS in letting him go. You need psychiatric help rather then ideas for a birthday party. Don't any of your friends have t he courtesy to tell you what your doing is bizarre?
How can you take a picture of him? Why don't you just put flowers on his grave? That is a great way to remember him. You wont ever forget him.
8 years might be time to tone it down. maybe start a smaller tradition on his birthday.
take a trip to a place he used to love. eat his favorite meal. watch his favorite movie, etc.
a full blown birthday party is a bit much 8 years later. I understand wanting to do it, but it indicates an inability to let go.
also just throwing it out there, but I am suspicious if this is real or not.
anyone who is actually doing this would probably not refer to it as "dead kid parties"
could be wrong, but that choice of wording screams bullshit
Really Nice people you are i really appreciate your love with your son you Just take your Smiling Photo your Son Image will there in your Smile
Bowling? If you live in Southern California, Disneyland? Chuck-E-Cheese?
For real?? How about just to the park for a picnic.
My son passed away 8 years ago and we've had a birthday party for him every year. This year we sort of ran out of ideas. Last year it was mini golf and the year before that we went to the zoo. Usually we just take a picture of him for his memory. Any ideas on dead kid parties?
